Greetings darlings. How are we all today? I hope all is good and all is well. Today's topic is going to be about "Modestia". Lol, it's 'Modesty', it just sounded cooler in Latin O_o I wanted to talk about this because recently I've been getting a lot of e-mails about this particular issue, especially from my Muslim sisters. Relax and read dolls :)
Lets begin.
As always, I like to start off my blog posts with a captivating introduction. However, I was e-mailed something hateful and discriminating towards me and my religion. It sort of made me laugh a bit because of the lack of knowledge this individual had and the assumptions they made. For obvious reasons I'm going to keep this e-mail anonymous. Take a read at this particular extract from the e-mail.
"why do you cover yourself up? you and all the rest look disgusting with it. I bet you'd look much more attractive if you wore englisher clothing. and that's coming from a girl. flaunt what you have because noone likes a bin bag" - Anonymous
Firstly, can we just all agree on something? "Englisher" is not a word boo. I think you're looking for the term "Western". I do wear western clothing and cultural clothing but I wear it in a way where it is modest. Anonymous, do you know what modesty is? There are many definitions to the actual word 'modesty' or 'modest' but I would like to pick out a couple that is relevant to what I'm talking about.
1) regard for decency of behaviour, speech, dress 2) designed to prevent inadvertent exposure of part of the body
I would now like to elaborate on these definitions, especially because I think it could give you a better insight on "all the rest" of the people's lives who do decide to cover up and act in a certain manner. I never thought that it would be a problem to conceal our own body. Our own limbs. Our own features. Since when did it concern you? My covering is an act of symbolism towards my faith. A symbol for all the world to see. The opinions of the ignorant people doesn't faze me and it shouldn't faze any other person who likes to be modest, with speech, with behaviour and with clothing.
Thanks for calling me a bin bag, really, thank you. I now realize that being compared to an item used for rubbish is not effective at all. Everybody listen up, all the people that call you irritable and mean names, just ignore them. They want you to counter act and display a huge reaction. My way of backing myself up and others (when it comes to topics like this) is using the power of knowledge and speech. The power that sadly some people do not have. Be grateful for open mind human beings because I'm pretty sure the world would be a much crueller environment to live in if it wasn't for these people.
Dear anonymous, please do not bring physical attraction into it. The amount of things I've read due to a woman covering up or uncovering is just mad. What scares me the most from a 'Hijabi' (a Hijab wearer) point of view is that there are so many judgements made to Muslims sisters by other Muslim sisters! A word of advice, do not point out the flaws in somebody and air it to the world, especially in social media. If you truly are concerned then message them privately. Additionally, don't make indirect Facebook statuses and bash on them straight after. How does that make you look? Definitely not noble at all. It looks so bitchy. Coming back to attraction. My standards are different to somebody else's standards. One person could be attracted to blondes and the other could be attracted to people with glasses. However, this doesn't' mean you dye your hair blonde or buy fake glasses just to impress that person. It isn't you!Try to meet your own standards of yourself rather than pointing out every other persons features which YOU do not approve of. My standards shouldn't affect you and your standards of others shouldn't affect them. If you don't like my Hijab, then fine, move please. I do not seek for the worlds approval, I only seek God's.
I do not wish to "flaunt" what I have because I simply don't want to. If I (along with many others) wish to keep myself to myself, why can you not appreciate it?
Why is my modesty your problem?
Thank you all for reading and sticking till the end of the blog post. Please share, or not. I don't mind lol. Thank you so much for your time! Keep those queries coming at me on my e-mail! Good luck to you all. God bless! xx If you would like to e-mail me on my blog account then here it is: tasahmedadvice@gmail.com
Good Morning, Good Afternoon and Good Evening my lovelies. Wherever you are in the world, hi! I hope you've had a great day filled with smiles. Now today's topic isn't going to necessarily be a 'Tas Talks' because I haven't received a query/e-mail that requires me giving advice that everyone can relate to, so welcome to an ordinary blog post. Get your thinking caps on people, this is going to be a long un'!
"Forgive and Forget". "Forgive but never forget". We as people have heard these sayings plenty of times, haven't we? When was the last time somebody asked for your forgiveness and why did they do it? How did you feel when they asked you too? Do you hold a grudge, do you forgive but bring up their mistakes when you next have an argument or disagreement, or do you completely forget about their mistake, hoping that they will not do it again. Let me explain.
I've been hurt and I've hurt people in the past. I know what it's like to ask for forgiveness or to accept someone's apology. We all have right? However, some things take time to forgive such as being betrayed or being physically abused. Time is a way of healing oneself emotionally just as well as physically. We need time to think and time to question how stupid or serious that other persons mistake was for them to ask for forgiveness. What gets to me is the fact that somebody can easily forgive one's mistake yet bring it up and use it as a defence mechanism when in an argument/disagreement. WHY? What was the actual point of you initially forgiving that person in the first place? If you're going to forgive someone, try to forget what their mistake was and try to look past it. In the end you'll only burden yourself with the past. You'll weaken your mind because of those constant thoughts and flashbacks when your eyes meet that persons eyes. Forgive and try to forget I say!
"You do not do evil to those who do evil to you, but you deal with them with forgiveness and kindness" - Prophet Muhammed (Peace Be Upon Him)
What kind of inner peace is it to wrong someone who has wronged you? You feel satisfaction for a couple of minutes, maybe an hour, but definitely not for a life time. Holding a grudge is basically letting someone live rent-free in your head space. FORGIVE AND TRY TO FORGET. Having a good characteristic is the noblest of all possessions. Turn your cheek away from those who seek to bring out the worst in you. If a certain person continuously makes mistakes as you constantly forgive them, try to let go of that person by not saying a word. Seriously. Let them learn for themselves when they're in the wrong. Let them think for themselves too. Time. Time is always on our side, it's just up to you with how and what you do within that period of time which determines your outcomes in life.
"Forgive but never forget" is one of the most reoccurring phrases I've heard in my life. Forgiveness is a choice and so is trying to forget. Forgiveness is letting go of the anger and attempt of retaliation which is something I think everyone should aim to do more often. I know it's hard. Believe me. I think the longest period of time where I haven't forgiven a person is 2 and a half years. That is indeed a long time but now that I have forgiven, I feel like I can let go of the past pain I had felt and the past regrets in which I hurt others during that previous period of my life. That section in which I didn't forgive put me on such edge. It led to me not "letting anyone in" so often because I thought people would hurt me even more. I was wrong. Forgiving someone is such a huge relief because your thoughts aren't constantly wrapped up around the situation. Let your mind breathe. Please.
I'm going to leave you with this quote.
What is the point of releasing negativity when you can influence others to do the right thing instead of being stubborn? If I have ever hurt you, find it in your heart to forgive me. Ameen (Amen).
And that's a wrap! Thank you so much for your time! Keep those queries coming at me on my e-mail! Good luck to you all. God bless! xx
Assalamualaikum, Hello, Hi, GREETINGS! Yes, I know that it's been absolutely ages since I've posted but hey don't worry because I have a couple of surprises for you! Firstly, sit back and relax because if you do tune in for my 'surprises' then it shall be quite time consuming.
Now first, these 'surprises'. Well if you scroll down just a tad bit, you can then see that I have uploaded two new fun videos for your entertainment. WAIT WHAT? There's some random chick with red glasses on there too? Wow, definitely surprising. I thought that I owed you guys new videos and a long post because of my absence. Enjoy the two videos first and then carry on scrolling down for the blog post! I hope you enjoy it my darlings :)
What come's to mind when you think of a beautiful man/woman? Piercing eyes that glisten with the sun shining down upon them, or brains that are full of information and knowledge. Silky long locks or eyebrows that are thick and full of life? Let me tell you what I think is beautiful. You. "Oh here we go with the cheesiness" some of you may think but to be honest, I AM being honest. What, you think I'm talking nonsense? Please, ya'll should know that I speak my mind and will not hold back. Let's paint a scene shall we?
A short and petite girl is walking to the shops with her tall friend. They both enter a makeup shop. The short girl comes across a red lipstick that she then tries out. Her tall friend picks out the same lipstick and tries it on too. Description of the two girls. The first one has her hair tied up in a messy bun, jeans and a t-shirt. Her face is quite round and has a few spots. Her eyes are big and brown and her lips are quite thin. Her eyebrows haven't been touched (she doesn't pluck/wax/tweeze them). The second girl has her hair curled and is wearing a maxi dress clinging on to her figure. Her eye makeup is simple and her eyebrows have been filled in for that 'perfect arch shape'. Her eyes are almond shaped and hazel. Now, they both leave the makeup store with the same lipstick on and stumble across a male friend of theirs. Who do you think the male speaks to? Who do you think the male has more interest in? The short and petite girl, or the tall one? I haven't created this scenario to be biased of any tall or short girl, I'm just getting you to think. Now, the male has his own personal opinion of who he thinks is more 'attractive' right? Everyone has their own opinion, we're humans and we all have our own individual mind. But what if the male thinks that one of the two girls is ugly. Ergh, there it is. That awful word. UGLY.
Definition of the word ugly: "unpleasant or repulsive, especially in appearance". I mean, seriously? Now think as yourself for a second, do you think that male has the right to think that one of the two girls are ugly? I mean, it is HIS opinion right? Each person is entitled to their own opinion. But what if he said it to one of the two girls. What if he meant it and was his intention to be cruel. Is that wrong? Of course it is. Let's elaborate. We live in a society where the celebrity actresses and magazine models are the ROLE-models. Airbrushed and edited to the max. Pssht, and we thought Instagram was deception. In this society, being slim, having flawless skin and long silky hair are more or less the keys of being 'beautiful' for a woman. Magazines and so forth displays this standard in which females have to reach. Females want to be and feel beautiful and comfortable within their own skin. Everyone does, including males obviously. In a males perspective, is having a 'ripped' body the key of being beautiful? Or is being fit and healthy better? How can you feel beautiful with all those steroids inside of you (aimed towards those that do steroids). I'm baffled. When I scroll down my Instagram/Facebook newsfeed, I see women who think that taking their clothes off and showing more skin will make them confident. Hey, if you are comfortable with your own skin, that's fine, but why lower yourself to 'that' standard where random males talk to you like a piece of meat. Self respect has more worth than having 100 Instagram likes.
"The beauty of a Woman is not in a facial mole, but true beauty in a Woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she knows.” Why has it come to the fact that not that many people care about inner beauty. Lots of people can call you beautiful because of your appearance but being beautiful comes from within. I'm running out of time but let me just wrap this up. You have your own opinions, everyone is entitled to it, but think before you comment on someone's appearance and judge them straight away. What's the point. What satisfaction will you gain. Become a better person and strive to treat people with the respect they deserve.
And that's a wrap! Thank you so much for your time! Keep those queries coming at me on my e-mail! Good luck to you all. God bless! xx
