Tas Talks Tuesday: Self Harm and Update!

Greetings Earth... Weblings! It's been so long. Well three weeks, but omg. STILL SO LONG. How are you? Whoever you are, I hope you have had an amazing day filled with smiles and if not, then smile now :) You're amazing. So my friends! Today's topic is going to be on something I feel needs to be spoken about: Self Harming. The causes, the effects, the aftermath. However, before we go into that, please watch the video below on an 'Update' and mini 'Get to know me tag'. This is just because I was away for so long and had not updated you guys. Don't hate me hehe.

Welcome to Tas Talks Tuesday.

UPDATE AND GET TO KNOW ME TAG VIDEO:

SELF HARMING:

Hey my name is ****** (keep it anonymous) I've self harmed before but I'm constantly worried but people seeing my scars and I feel as if I'm not beautiful with them but I don't regret my scars because it shows that I battled through something and I won it at the end but how do I explain it to someone when they see scars without them judging me?xo
- Anonymous, 15

Well firstly, greetings anonymous! I hope you have also had a fantabulous day and are smiling away. If not then *tickles* This e-mail is quite short so I guess I'll get straight to the point and not over evaluate on this topic.

Self harm. Self harming. Suicide. Death. Scars. Scissors. Blades. Burns. Hot Water. Regret. Content. Passion. Relief. Bruising. Hitting. Pinching. Breaking. Break downs. All of these words (and many more) have something to do with self harm, but what does it actually mean? Google says:

 

"Deliberate injury to oneself, typically as a manifestation of a psychological or psychiatric disorder."

That's Google's perception of the term self harm, but what does it mean to others? To some, self harming is their way out of their problems, their issues. It feels good, a relief from internal pain, emotional pain. However, to others its a disease. An addiction that they so badly want to stop but just can't figure out how to. If you self harm, which are you?

 

My personal take on self harm comes not just from my background, but also comes my surroundings, who I've been friends with/are friends with, my family and my Deen (way of life = Islam). All of these aspects make up my opinion and my opinion is this. I don't like self harm. I HATE SELF HARM. Now hold on, before you assume, just wait. I don't hate the self harmERS, I actually just hate the term self harm and the meaning behind it. I am concerned for self harmers. I want to help. The reason is this: firstly, in Islam, self harming is forbidden. This is because our body is a blessing from the one and only Allah SWT (God), so who are we to damage it? We take our body for granted sometimes. Our body is amazing. How it functions, what it needs to function, what it looks like inside. Subhan'Allah! (Glorious is God). The creation of the Almighty is beautiful indeed. Secondly: I feel like there are many other ways to release emotions of pain and sadness, and not by hurting yourself. We shouldn't take life for granted. Yes, as humans we sometimes feel upset because of certain situations or events that has happened in our life but we all must remember that where you are at right now in life is somebody else's dream. We forget that there are so many people on this Earth. People without basic necessities. People that do not take life for granted. We forget. We feel guilty.

 

We should appreciate our pains and problems just as the poor appreciate a cup and a piece of cloth because without these problems, life wouldn't have a meaning. You'd just live and you will not learn.

However, problems are just a part of life. They are not the only necessity for human motivation. The craving to solve problems is just one of the things that drives the human society forward.

 

Now Anonymous, I congratulate you for not continuing to self harm (I'm only presuming as you said you 'used to' self harm). The fact that you are scared of being judged about your scars scares me. Why? Is your sole purpose in life to please 'the people', especially the ignorant ones? No. Then why bother about them? Also, I congratulate you on the fact that you know your scars was a battle. You won. You overcame it. That's beautiful to me. Now HOLD UP. You do not NEED to explain anything to that person who is currently judging you. Unless you personally know them and care about them and vice versa, you needn't not explain a thing! The reasons you self harmed are reasons that are sacred and precious to you. They are moments that will live inside you and has the capability of coming out unless you simple don't care anymore and let go of those insecurities. 

 

Now I don't want to carry on saying to people that self harm the normal crap that they hear day in day out from people that don't really care. But believe me. I care.

 

Do me a favour and don't turn back to it. I don't want it to ever become and addiction for you anonymous, or for anyone. There are many other alternatives to self harming. You need to open your eyes and let yourself come to terms with other alternatives such as (naming a few)

 

• Listen to music and sing along loudly
• Draw a picture of what is making you angry
• Blow up a balloon and pop it
• Scribble on photos of people in magazine
• Go for a run
• Write your feelings on paper then rip it up

There are many more others, you just need to test these alternatives out whenever you feel the temptation to self harm and see what works best for you.

 

In'Sha'Allah (If God Wills) you can all overcome this. You are all in my Du'ahs (Prayers) and I wish you AND anonymous the absolute best of luck. Hugs xxx

 

And that's a wrap! Thank you so much for your time! Keep those queries coming at me on my e-mail! Good luck to you all. God bless! xx


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For now...SALUTATIONS X