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The month of Ramadan is not only when Muslims fast for 30 days (sometimes 29) from sunrise to sunset, but is also the most perfect and blessed month of the year; arguably, the most awaited 'event' for a Muslim. Shaytaan (the devil) is locked away, so all actions coming from a person is purely their doing. There is no excuse for their negative behaviour. The month enables one to starve their stomach but feed their soul with inner peace, practise, prayer and contentment. What makes it even more beautiful is when Non-Muslims decide to fast in order to 'support' their friends or family, consequently leading them into feeling the amazing feeling that we Muslims feel: tranquillity. I swear, this month is meant for utter and complete peace, but why is it when some people try to better themselves, others are quick to judge? This doesn't just apply to people in the month of Ramadan or to Muslims only, but I will explain my views on those sections too.
Muslimahs. My brothers and sisters, we need to realise and understand that Allah did not create us perfect, and does not expect perfection. However, He does expect us to try our best. When you see a brother in Ramadan wearing his Thobe (Islamic dressing) as opposed to his usual jeans and hoody, why do you feel the need to point that out to other people around you, let alone saying this to yourself? Say Ma Sha Allah (all praise be to God) and keep everyone in your prayers that they continue their good habits even after Ramadan finishes. When you see a sister wearing a Hijab (headscarf) as opposed to her summer dresses, why do you feel the need to exaggerate that she doesn't wear it outside of Ramadan?
"She's a part time Hijabi"
"Look, her hair at the front is showing"
"You can see a bit of her skinny jeans showing underneath"
"He's a roadman outside of Ramadan"
"I bet his mum told him to wear that"
"Do they even pray though?"
PLEASE STOP!
Who are we to be constantly focusing our energy on judging someone who is essentially trying to better themselves. Whether it is covering themselves, praying and reading the Quran (Islamic holy book) more or even visiting the Mosque regularly, they are receiving the rewards whilst you are depriving yourself from it. The beauty of this month is that it has become a turning point for so many Muslims across the world. Don't ruin and discourage those who are trying. This could be their turning point. This isn't a competition my fellow Muslim brothers and sisters. Use this month efficiently and really try to better yourselves. Back-biting is considered to be a major sin, so watch your mouth and don't say anything unless it's positive. This month is about what you do, how you treat people, what you say, what actions you commit and what you do to strive to become a better Muslim. Do not let a temporary moment of you judging another decrease the good you've committed so far. At the end of the day, we are all striving to become better. We are all trying.
Even when Ramadan ends and Shaytaan (the devil) is free again, bite your tongue and refrain from being judgemental. This is a reminder for me as well as for you: back-biting to your friends is STILL back-biting. This does not change what you are doing no matter who you are with. For you to constantly point out the flaws in others who are trying to become better human beings, is disgusting. What makes you so superior to them? Is it because you pray 5 times a day but they only do it 'sometimes'. Is it because your Hijab covers your head completely but that sister's baby hairs are sticking out? Is it because you are so prestigious, you can wear whatever you want but they can't because they are not 'always' following the modest dress code? My brothers and sisters, please stop this nonsense. Don't judge others because they sin differently to you. If you see someone sin, become a "private educator", not a "public tribunal". Also, don't use that as an excuse to view them as inferior to you. Stay humble and do not let your so called perfect self float in the sky with arrogance.
We in general, have the tendency to judge everything and everyone. What separates us is what and how people act upon it. Some will think it, some will think it and say it, some will think it and say it to everyone they know, and the rest think it and choose to ignore their opinion and move on with their lives. Wouldn't the world be a much better place if we all strived to think like that? We are all facing a battle, all trying to overcome personal problems and we are all different.
We are all trying. That is all.
As always, any questions, queries or problems you have that you want my advice on, my e-mail is always open!
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Till next time,
SALUTATIONS x
tasahmedadvice@gmail.com
Till next time,
SALUTATIONS x
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